Feb 23


I have the most incredible boyfriend in the world, but my mom has always been extremely bipolar and since I started college and moved out she has gotten worse. She did some nice stuff like got me braces, cool christmas gifts, and would buy me expensive food (such as $3.00 single yogurts for lunch), so I feel like she was nice at times. Then again, she didn’t let me see friends, threatened that CPS would take me away if I didn’t spend days on end cleaning her house while she watched tv, laughed at my pain, threw stuff at me/yelled at me till I cried a few times per week, and would humiliate me in public and sometimes hit me.
She has gotten much worse since leaving for college and constantly threatens and guilt trips me. She tells me she’ll kill herself, that I’ll regret it when she dies, that my boyfriend will end up abusive, that I’ll lose all my financial aid and have to drop out of college, etc. and she does the above. She even keeps a death note by her bed!
Today she forwarded me a mass email about giving away my dog. Her house isn’t on the market and we both know noone will buy it for a few years and she knows I would take my dog if I had a home!
She then sent me a message on MSN and told me, “too bad I have to get rid all of the pets. I’m sure you got my email. Good night!”
Even when I am an hour away, she finds a way to make me cry and recently she has gotten so threatening and mean that I have started taking it out on my boyfriend. He had to cancel seeing me today because of a school meeting, and I got furious at him (which isn’t like me) and even last week he went to the arcade for an hour longer than he said and I refused to speak with him for an hour (and I love the arcade as well!)
My boyfriend is so nice to me, but I keep hurting him lately.
I don’t know what to do. How can I stop taking out my frustration from my mom onto my boyfriend?! I know she is trying to tear us apart because she is jealous of him!
Please help….she will NEVER admit that she is in the wrong and will get meaner if I confront her.
“all of the pets” meaning my cats too — one was a stray who was hit by a car that I saved and it took her years to trust people! :(

Jul 4


Hi, There is a girl I was dating briefly about a month ago. We went out a few times, started off well, but we just weren’t compatible. The last date was no fun, so we never spoke after that. That was like a month ago.

She likes cooking, and I just got on a mass email loop where you forward recipes on. I think it’s really cool, but don’t know if that like overstepping an unwritten boundary since we didn’t ever email while dating (we are facebook friends, so have each others email from that.)

Is there anything weird about me including her in the loop when we haven’t spoken in awhile? Would that be strange to email her when we’ve never emailed before?
just to re-iterate, we’ve never emailed before. That was the whole premise of the question. Just w anted to clarify b/c a few ppl said too cut the emails down…but I’ve never emailed her at all.

Jun 26


Recently, I found these in my bf e-mail box. I don’t mean to see his email, because of using his computer to check my email. He did not log out. I saw some email “special” email subjects - so I clicked…

This is to his buddy..
” this is the girl i’ve been talking to on myspace… you should check it out dude.. i am just doing what my housemate does… he sends out the same email to all of them… just doing a mass email, and says that he is new in town and trys to break the ice that way. i had to send out like 36 emails, but then i got 2 responses…. woo hoo! anyways, not sure what i am getting myself into here….”

and another one is

” Two good-looking guys seeking a couple of nice girls to hang out with us on our boat this summer. We will be out the weekend of July 28th, and many days beyond that for the rest of the summer. your pic gets mine, and we can discuss more detail via email… ”

He apoloyized for doing these things. So, if you were me, what would you do?